Your own Senses and your Internal Agenda

Your own senses and what you think is good or bad is designed by what you want to feel in the first place in your internal agenda.  This reality is very difficult to teach.

Your sensory acuity (How accurately you see, feel and hear the world around you rather than getting stuck in the artificial map of reflecting in your own head) is the first factor in how well you are able to control your perception.

Your ability to see, feel and hear your own projections from past situations is the second important factor.  Can you hear and see when you are interpreting slights or irritations in one relationship that are a total repeat of how you interpreted a past situation?  Or, do you actually not realize it is you that is going through stages of feelings that were built in previous relationships that have nothing to do with now (like most people).  How well can you define the ability to stay in gratitude vs. reactions that are from your own exit strategy, mismatch strategy or other defensive feelings that change how we as people filter reality?

Any irrational fears from previous life events can also distort the present in many ways.  They can change your beliefs about men, women, work, money, self esteem … the list is endless.

Can you be going for the best possible version of the future rather than noticing those factors that irritate you?

The reality is that you have physical and biochemical factors that change whether you believe a situation is safe or unsafe, desirable or unwanted.  Sleep, hormones, blood sugar, chronic pain, and stress all play a part in this continuum.  Your physical reactions cross referenced with your decision methods or strategies equals how it all goes.  In NLP we call the ways of sorting out meaning propellant systems and meta-programs.  

As you change these patterns back and forth you tend to train others to react a certain way attempting to avoid what you don’t want or give you what you want.  Then, as those factors change- people either feel good or bad based on the success of what you have shown them.

You are also being conditioned to react a certain way to others.  This conditioning is set in the imprint, modeling, and socialization phases of growing up.  Many people never consciously notice that they are filtering unrelated relationships through the view and feelings from totally unrelated events growing up or in young adulthood.    

The more consistent your moods the more consistent your relationships.  The general idea is to design your strategies, filters, habits, patterns and judgements fresh from now to the dreams you have for your life.  How you want to see, hear and feel your life 5 years from now.  Then, look around for the right attitudes, values, strategies and habits to make it happen.  Not react to the way you felt in a previous relationship, not hanging past labels on everything.